Why is not healthy in sustaining positive relationships by confrontation

If you confront someone right off the bat since you think they are talking to someone who talks about you behind your back or they are dating your boyfriend or your boyfriend is dating someone else behind your back don't confront. Trick them into telling you what they are doing or follow them and catch them in the act so they have no chance in saying that they didn't do it. Confrontation can lead to them lying to you. Sometimes you might be wrong and when you confront them and find out that it really wasn't what they were doing, they get mad and decide that they are going to leave you or are not going to talk to you. Or maybe they decide that they are going to forget about it and then confront you with something and let you feel the hurt and pain that that brings to a person. It will lead to them wanting to have revenge on you or they will want to do those things on purpose and flaunt it in your face.